“If everything else fails, read the instructions.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Sometimes instructions aren’t a good thing. For example, if you are purchasing a lovely piece of furniture, do you really want it to come with instructions? This means that when you get it home you will need to unpack the box, find the instructions, and hope against hope that you can follow them. Usually it all works out…and a mere three hours later you will have your lovely new bookcase.
Of course, by this time you have become so grumpy that your significant other has decided that she doesn’t really want to move in with you after all. Or, at least, delay it for a while. And, oh, perhaps she has learned that not all men are as handy around the house as her daddy is.
Yes, sometimes it’s a bad sign when things come with instructions.
A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.
– Tenneva Jordan
Our daughter is now 27. Only over recent years she has begun to refer to me as “Mama Bear.” I take this as quite the compliment. Unlike a “Helicopter Mom” who unnecessarily hovers over her child, a Mama Bear is a fierce protector. Liane calling me this now is more a mature recognition of how I was a strong advocate for her early on, when she first struggled with Bipolar Disorder, and even now, at times – but only when my help is requested.
I have always believed that a parent needs to be the strongest advocate for his or her child. After all, if you are not, who will be? Every child needs a fierce advocate, and it is particularly true if your child is struggling with a mental illness.